Things That Really Matter......

I've been teased by my family for qutie some time about not saving stuff. If it isn't nailed down, you just might find it in the trash. That doesn't mean I don't save anything...that just means I don't save everything. I'm sure alot of that has come from not having alot of room, no basement, and having to climb in attics or storage units where rats just wait for my arrival. LOL

I tend to keep things of significance. I thought it might be fun to open up my little "trunk of treasures" and share a few with you.

A Disney Bracelet: a friend brought this back to me in fifth grade. When you open the book that's a charm, a tri-fold piece of paper with Disney Characters pops out. Sjignificance: besides our friendship, the night she gave this to me my entire famiy nearly died. Unbeknownst to us, the water heater in our house had a pipe that rusted off and we had been breathing carbon monoxide for quite some time. The doctor told us if it had been even a few more hours, we all would have died. I will never forget that night. The bracelet reminds me of friendship and life.

A Pearl Heart Pendant: My Grandma Woods gave all us girls a pearl, heart broche from my great grandmother. Significance: not only a family heirloom but since Grandma only had boys, the first experience for her passing on something to "daughters"...even if it was granddaughters.

Tiara: Jr. High Homecoming Queen. Significance: The first time I realized I just might be able to break out of my "shell of shyness" and be the out going, friend loving, person I wanted to be. A huge confidence booster for me at age 14.

Promise Ring: Given to me by my first boyfriend, first love. A very special person who practically raised me. I started dating him when I was 14 and dated him off and on for about 3 1/2 years. Significance: I kept it tucked away to give to my daughter when she turned 13 (a teenager) to talk about dating, love, purity, etc... About two years ago (when I finally decided I wouldn't be able to give it away) I pulled it out of it's ring box and wear it on my pinkie. Fond memories of fun times in my life.

Nugget Necklace: Given to me by my dad. My first year in college, me & my older sister were going at the same time and dad said Christmas might be a little "light". He always gave us a gift just from him. That Christmas he had all his rings melted down and had nuggets made for all the ladies in the family and had one of his stones put in each one. Significance: Always reminding me of sacrificial love. At times when I lived far away, I would have that necklace on, and when I was feeling homesick, I would just reach up and hold onto that nugget. Amazing the comfort a gift can bring.

Smile File: When we started ministry at 22, we went to a conference and heard this lady speak. Ministry isn't easy...EVER. She was encouraging us and she told us to make a "smile file". Every time someone sent us a note of something good we did, put it in the file. On the days when people were just being a pain in the butt (my paraphrase of course) pull out the cards and read them. We've had one ever since. I still put cards in there even though we left ministry a while ago. Significance: Everyone needs to be reminded of the good things they do every once in a while.

Cross Bracelet: My moms cross bracelet. I really don't know how much she wore it but when we were going through her stuff, I found it in her jewelry box. Significance: Besides it just being hers, the crosses remind me of how she lived her life. Such a symbol of her. I wear it every day....somehow it makes me feel I take a part of her with me wherever I go.

These are just a few of my treasures. I don't know about you but daily life and all the pettiness that comes with it, sometimes makes me lose focus of the important things, things that really matter. Treasures that have helped me grow and become the person I am today. People who have occupied or just passed through my life, all contributing some sort of significance thats made me.....me ! If nothing else, I hope this blog makes you stop, take a moment, and think about all the things that matter most in your life. You won't regret it =) Love ya !!

The Boycott

I live in a very suburban area. The houses are built close together with barely enough yard space between them to have grass to sink your toes into. In fact, I’m fairly certain if I opened my window, I could reach out and wash the windows of my neighbor, if I felt so inclined to do so. We aren’t talking “Little House On The Prairie” here…where animals would have miles of land to roam free. With that scenario, you would expect varmints.

So WHY, OH WHY am I living in Animal Kingdom ? I dealt with a rat in my attic for close to 6 months before anyone would believe me and do something about it. Over a week now I’ve been dodging HUMAN SIZED lizards who won’t leave my tiny suburban yard, camping out on my patio furniture (so I won’t go outside and read) and NOW, I was awakened at 4:00 this morning to some sort of plastic wrap chewing, hopping around, moving animal, either in my vent, under my bed or outside of my window. It started to sound like “surround sound” so it’s hard to tell.

Typical routine ensued…I listened…and listened some more (just to make sure I wasn’t dreaming or wasn’t crazy..lol) Then I punched Doug, said “ssshhhh”….then NOTHING. “Wait…wait………..THERE it is, did you hear ?” Doug “No”. We repeat this routine. Me…hearing it VERY loudly. Deaf man…hearing nothing. (you would think after our last rat adventure he would just accept “I’m right”…there’s something there and at this point even pretend to hear it….cause LORD KNOWS we aren’t going back to sleep until HE HEARS IT !!!!) He storms off to the bathroom (because I woke him up for nothing) and I’m left alone in the room, glued to my bed, being tormented by this animal that is hopping, dragging plastic, chewing….to the point I’m literally breaking out in a sweat.

Let’s stop for a second here and discuss, “why do some animals only come out at night”. BECAUSE THEY KNOW THEY AREN’T INVITED AND SHOULD NOT BE HERE ! When we lived in Arizona…animals just owned the place. I arrived home one day to wild hogs crossing the street, came around and they were hanging out at the fence in my back yard (these were big enough to ride). Coyotes often frequented the flower beds and they weren’t intimidated by you. Tarantula’s glued themselves to the walls outside..no inhibition…no hiding. Jack Rabbits….not cute little bunnies…invading your flowers…they didn’t care if you saw them. Oh well. Javelina’s out and about. You expected that these kids owned the place and were just allowing you to live there. Don’t bother them and they will not torment you and let you live.

HERE…things are creeeeepy ! Always in the dark, or lurking around. Hiding in your ceiling, or walls. Waking up innocent women who just want to sleep in peace.

After an “animated exchange of words” I grabbed my pillow and left to sleep in the den. The boycott has begun. Envision picket signs being made, “heck no, I won’t stay, make the animals go away” ! Negotiations will be on the table….some haggling will take place….but I will not sleep in that bedroom another day until we’ve reached a “peace treaty” (meaning….FIND THE VARMINTS AND GET RID OF THEM) !!

If I wanted to live at a zoo, I would. End of story! =)

"I'll Love You Forever......."

“I’ll love you forever….I’ll like you for always….as long as I’m living….my baby you’ll be.” I remember the first time I ever heard this quote (from the book “I’ll Love You Forever”)…I cried like a baby. What a way to rip a mom’s heart out. Especially a mom of boys.

What is it about the last one leaving home that just seems to put you in a tail spin? In just a few short days my baby is leaving the nest, flying the coop, heading north, leaving the cave…well, you get it. Tan is special…not just because he’s the baby, but he’s also the child who has lived with me the longest completely by himself. Four years…no one to share the daily attention with. All eyes focused on him.

We’ve also had to become a “team”. Right after Tyler left…Doug started traveling. A LOT ! That left me & Tan at home alone…A LOT ! He went from a dominant male house to just me & him. In the beginning, we had a lot of “quiet & painful” dinners out…just the two of us. Weird for two people who are use to a lot of noise, sarcasm, talking, and sharing at the table. But somehow, through it all, we’ve become buds.

Instead of writing a weepy and whiney blog about how sad I am, I decided I would share a few things I love about Tanner.

~I love that in 8th grade he got signed up for long distance track (had never ran track before) & instead of giving up as he got lapped by all the runners, he trotted by the stands, waved to the crowd, & flashed his pearly whites. The stands loved it.
~I love that he is so competitive. (I also hate that he’s so competitive..haha)
~I love that he took a negative “obsessive compulsive disorder” and turned it into a positive. He decided if he was going to be compulsive it might as well be about something healthy. He exercises religiously and has the biceps to prove it =)
~I love that whatever he puts his mind to; he finds success by doing his best.
~I love that he takes pride in his work.
~I love that he’s never missed curfew, I’ve never had to monitor his grades, nor his money.
~I love that when I was told I was losing my job in the school district and came home crying uncontrollably, he never asked a word, but walked over and put his arm around me while I cried.
~I love that whenever I showed up at school, for any event, he would come over and hang out, chat, and acknowledge my presence.
~I love that he could care less what others think about his relationship with his parents.
~I love that he loves hanging out with his brothers more than anybody else in his life.
~I love that you never have to guess what he’s thinking. Just wait 45 seconds and he will tell you. =)
~I love that after the boys arrived at my parent’s house, after mom died, he was the first son to walk over and put his arm around me. He also does this quite often in church on Sundays (one of my hardest days).
~I love that he’s not ashamed of what he believes and “walks the walk” to prove it.
~I love that he loves God and understands the importance He is in his life.
~I love that right after mom’s death, just a week later, he had to pull off being the lead in the school musical…and he did it.
~I love that every night, at curtain call; he would take his bow then throw a kiss to heaven. (I hope Sanma got a glimpse…just once)
~I love that 18+ years ago God decided I needed just one more boy
~I love that he told us (in so many words) that he’s going to miss us
~I love YOU….Tanner Austin Brodess and will miss you very much <3

Kids bring us joy. They change us. They challenge us. They turn our lives upside down and we often don’t remember life before them. They are the greatest blessing I’ve ever been given. I am one blessed momma.

The Journey To "I Do"....Part 2

I've rarely witnessed this sight in all the years I've raised my boys. Maybe if we were visiting the grandparents, we would take a family outing to the mall, just to "do something". Walk the mall, spend the money the grandparents had given them, then go home. My boys aren't much on shopping. Jordan and Tanner ONLY like to go if they have money and are looking for something in particular. Ty could care less if he has money and quite frankly, rarely is looking for something. He hates to shop, could care less about trends or if he's in style...haha (I'm not sure "how" they are related to me =)

Today, we had several tasks at hand: shopping for Groomsmen pants (a daunting task by now), Ty shopping for dress clothes for work, and Tan was there to try stuff on and look for some college attire. This really should have been 3 separate trips...but I had to take what I could get.

Ty found a few things,purchased & immediately began complaining that "this is 'why' he doesn't buy clothes. They are too much money" ..haha I tried to tell him if he bought a little "here & there" he wouldn't have to drop a wad all at once. In other words, don't wait 4 yrs. to update your closet...haha He REALLY needs to catch a low-maintenance kind of girl =)

Tan didn't fall in love with anything and was relatively finished after the first store =) OH BOY !! This is going to be fun.

And then we have Jordan...who has been shopping for Groomsmen pants for a while now. It's alot of work when you don't want to go "traditional" at your wedding and just rent tuxes. The process went like this: the brothers would try on pants, Jord would take a pic, text the pic to Aubrey..then wait for approval. This is where it gets interesting...haha

(The men in my house have pretty much ruled my home. It's a dominate testosterone driven house. I either make a fuss...everyone begrudges me my wishes...hates it & shows it...then I find it really wasn't worth it after all.)Now a new female is going to be entering the ranks. Not just a girlfriend...but a permanent fixture. Whatever are they going to do ? haha

They tried on several pairs of pants but nothing seemed to work. Jord is frustrated, but not talking about it, and Tyler, in all the tact that he can muster, blurts out, "don't you get a say about your own guys clothes? I mean, isn't that YOUR ONE thing?" aaahahahahaha Holding back outlandish laughing was the hardest thing I've ever done. I believe Jord's response was something like, "just wait Tyler until you are in a REAL relationship, and you have to make someone else happy besides yourself." hahaha Me & Tyler just snicker behind his back =)

This is when you realize your "boy" has grown into a "man"....when he realizes that getting married will mean compromise, pleasing, bending, changing your mind, not always getting your way, and keeping what's important....important.

And as for me...I begin to realize that "the odds, may soon be in my favor." =) LOL
BOO-YAH !!!!

In The Moment......

How many times have you done something "in the moment" and then later looked back and thought, "what the heck was I doing?" I know I've done it far too many times to count.

Today, my friend at work was sharing about a lady who has two brain tumors. Of course this brought up a discussion about my mom. There's very little I can tell you about those traumatic days that has any humor to it....but today I shared a humorous "moment" with her and thought you might get a kick out of it too.

Let me back up first. I don't know how many of you who read my blogs knew my mom. She was a refined lady. I don't mean "snooty" if that's what you're thinking. More like...classic. She never left the house without being "put together". Right before I got married I remember her telling me to "get up every day, get yourself dressed, makeup, hair, the works. If you don't make yourself worth coming home to, Doug will find somebody else who will". I've never forgotten that ! LOL In my lifetime, I can count maybe 15 times I didn't see my mom get up and get herself made for the day. And most of those times she was sick or recovering from surgery.

She would come up to the hospital shortly after I had given birth and after visiting, hugging and cooing over the baby for a while, she would look at me and say, "do you want to put on a little makeup?" haha Somehow I would appease her with at least putting on ome lipstick. =) She seemed to think that makeup makes you feel better..or at the least...makes you look better =)

Over the years our family has talked alot aobut funerals, deaths, etc..Probably because we attended so many with dad being a Pastor. We talked about what we did and didn't like. Since mom's death happened so quickly, we basically walked around in a blur the first 48 hours, trying to put her funeral together. Mom had said for years "I don't want an open casket". I don't think in her wildest dreams did she ever think she would die young. In fact, my grandma (her mom) is still alive. She always said, "I don't want people coming to look at me after I've been sick. I won't even look like myself and everyone will come by and just gawk". We took this into consieration but because of the suddenness of her death, dad decided on the night we went to the viewing that he was going to have an open casket. He felt this would help bring closure for people. Besides, she looked just like herself. They did an amazing job. The grandkids kept saying, "it just looks like she's asleep". There had been no suffering..no long endured sickness.

After coming into the funeral home, crying and consoling one another, we all began to relax a little. When I realized dad was going to have an open casket, I stepped closer to get a good look at mom. They did a great job...but it looked like there was just a little something missing. I kept staring at her and finally said, "I think she needs more mascara." Before I knew it, I was standing at the head of her casket (I wanted to get a good angle) and I bent over and started applying mascara. Now even though mom was a good teacher, and I've had alot of practice, THIS was a little different. I soooo didn't want to get any on her cheeks. What if I did...how would I get it off ? I am applying it VERY "gingerly" to say the least. As I'm fixated on my job, my younger sis' walks over and says, "I think she needs some eye liner. She doesn't have any on." Sooo...she joins me. I'm applying mascara, she's applying eyeliner. And you guessed it, older sis' came over and said, "She needs more lipstick" and whipped out a tube and started applying. Three girls, leaned over our moms casket, diligently applying makeup to her face. We were "In the Moment"....oblivious to the rest of the world. It was only as my cousin came up, laughing and crying and said, "you guys are cracking me up...I can't believe you are putting makeup on your mom" that we snapped back to reality and realized we must look like we have lost our mind.

My first thought & response was, "do you KNOW my mom ? If we let her go to her funeral without her makeup being right and looking her best....we will be haunted from heaven the rest of our lives." =) I truly believe that ! haha We were trained right !! lol

I've had alot of "In The Moments" over my lifetime. They've come and gone....but I will always remember "this moment"...when humor came up and grabbed me by the collar when I least expected it and for just a moment, made me smile. =)

The Journey To "I Do".......

I can not figure out "why" something I use to love to do has suddenly become a dreaded chore. Nearly every Saturday growing up, after we girls helped my mom clean the house, we would head off to the mall to window shop, and in the rare lucky times, BUY ! It's just what we did. I've spent many Saturdays since doing the same thing...mostly by myself.

I'm pretty picky. I don't like things to touch me. I don't like my knees to show. (although I must be going through some sort of a "mni-crisis" lately because I've bought a few summer dresses that come to my knee...mercy!)Give me a few months...it will be out of my system and I'll be back to plain old me =)

Every time I have a big occasion coming up (last one was my all school reunion) the shopping becomes a marathon. Alot of stressing, second guessing, dieting goes into the mix of trying to find the "perfect outfit". It's a job to say the least.

Trying to find this "mother of the groom" dress has gradually become a nuisance. It
lost it's joy about the second Saturday I found nothing. But today, I felt hopeful. Heading to an entirely different area of town, I was focused, determined, ready to make a purchase. I arrive at the store and it seemed to be endless with choices. I really like this place. It's weird though. Because they sale wholesale and retail, there are no dressing rooms. Their recommendation, just try it on over your clothes. Hmmm....interesting. It's hard to picture looking "magical" when you have this "bulk" of clothing sticking out everywhere it's not suppose to be. Winning !

I find one that I really like...put it on (over my clothes) take a pic and text it to "the groom"..my boy. This goes on..me texting Jordan..then my younger sis..then the bride. By this time I am just sweating...mostly because I have two sets of clothes on...and stores around here are apparently cutting back on air because every store is hot. This goes on for close to an hour...trying on clothes...taking a pic...sending it...getting negative feedback. The best thing about the whole experience is everything looks big (even with my clothes on) and I'm having to try on the next smaller size. Yes...there is a merciful God. =) Finally, I decide to give up and walk down the sidewalk to another store.

Another store with lots of selection ! I'm pumped. The momentum is building. SURELY...I will find something here. They can cut a long dress off to tea length...they can order anything I like in a different color...different size...SCORE !
I find several, head to the dressing room. AND THEY HAVE A DRESSING ROOM !! Double Score !! As soon as I close the door, I'm immediately aware of how warm it is in the room. I can do it...don't think about it Ginger. Most of the ones I brought in were not in my size...mostly bigger...but I would at least get the "essence" of the look. Hmmm....I got the essence alright. Not one dress...my size...bigger size....BIGGEST size..fit me. I couldn't zip a single one. Dear Lord...what happened on the walk from the first store to the second. Suddenly the movie "Mean Girls" came to mind. It's as if I was strolling along eating some kind of protein bar from one store to the next causing me to gain massive weight. I went from wearing clothes smaller than my size to not being able to fit in to clothes two times larger than my size. NOW I'M REALLY SWEATING ! Nearly fuming ! I sense if I don't hurry up and get out of here I literally may have a meltdown.

I leave. Aggravated. Discouraged. No closer to finding my magical dress. The dress that will be in "forever pictures". Picutres that reside in an album on a coffee table. Tomorrow is another day....another opportunity for a new adventure.....

Stay tuned..... =)

Guess I Had Something To Say Afterall........

I was going to share this on my FB status but then realized I needed ALOT more room to truly express myself. Yesterday my dad posted this as his Facebook status and I would like to share it with you: "I strongly disagree with Obama on many issues and hope that we will elect a new Presient this coming November. But I do not wish Obama any harm. The reason I have chosen to express my thoughts in this matter is because of a few comments on FB regarding our former Bush Presidents. No true American and certainly no Christian should wish harm to anyone else, If you don't like the rats who are in office then vote them out. Thank God that we are not living in a country where we fear opposing our leaders. To wish misfortune or harm for another is to invite the same on ourselves." THIS is the kind of "leader" I grew up with. My dad is by no means perfect, but the one thing I have always appreciated about my parents is balanced perspective. They've taught me to "stand up" for what I believe in....without having to "step on" everyone else who doesn't agree with me. Is it hard ? Of course ! I hate that people don't "think like me"...on any issues...it doesn't matter what issue it is. Politics, religion, finances, you name it. I just had a similiar discussion with my oldest yesterday (who by the way, voted for Obama). It's funny how we have MANY groups in America....all rallying for their cause...all talking about the opposite side as if "what they are doing is horrible" and yet are practicing the same thing. Oh...you want an example you say ? Religious groups aren't going to shop at Target because they sold T-Shirts to support Gay Rights/Marriage. The gay community is outraged because "Christians" are being out spoken about their opinions in this. Flip side: my son, who has many gay friends, said they LOVE Chick Filet...but refuse to eat there because they support Religious Rights...opposing gay marriage. Hmmm.....and thus we have America. Am I saying "don't stand for anything" ? No ! Vote for who you think is best for our country, representing what you feel is most important. I DO !! But the "mud slinging" has got to stop. Figure out "how" to express your opinion without everyone feeling like they have to take a "shower" or a "shovel" after you spew. I don't know about you but the President of the United States is not, nor ever has been, the leader in my life. He leads where I live. I get to choose who is the leader in my life. God gave me a wonderful, educated, intelligent father who taught me more than any other leader in my life. But above all GOD is the leader of my life. He's the leader of this country, regardless of anyone's view (in my opinion of course) so I am going to rest in the fact that HE'S got it ALL under control ! I have enough to worry about taking care of me :)